Supernanny

Ground Rules

• P's and Q's



• No shouting, kicking

Other Tips

• Parents must remain calm. Don't follow their "rhythm", you set the pace
  - don't be a 2nd kid by having a shouting competition. Be an adult, step back, stay calm, don't lose it, if not "they win"
  Take deep breaths



• They are learning communication skills from you. Don't be aggressive. If you shout at them, they will shout back, so you need to speak calmly to them.
  Must communicate with them, they must be able to talk to you and tell you things and confide in you.



• Set boundaries - there's consequences when you overstep
  - They must understand, we are adults in the house and we are in charge, what we say goes, and they have to respect that



• Parents must put up a united front
  Both parents must support each other and back each other up. If one parent punishes, other must also help enforce, if not undermine the other's authority



• Get them involved, give them "important responsibility" to help out
  - in bathing
  - in cooking - Little Chef
  - in shopping - fetcher, calculator, tick shopping list



• Have a routine- bathtime, bedtime



• Reward chart for good behaviour. Merit and demerit, chart that can progress up and down...
  - add flower petals, snake and ladders



• Mother-child bonding activity
  - one on one time, communicate, let them know they can get your attention through positive behaviour rather than through misbehaving
  - must see mum as person can have fun with, not only disciplinarian



• Give them prior heads-up, let them know what's coming next
  "Ok, 5 more mins we're going to shower"
  "Ok, 5 more mins we're going out of the shower"

Bedtime

1. It's bedtime now, let's go to bed



2. Bedtime



3. From then onwards, don't say anything
   Don't reward them with conversation. Need to be consistent.

Cool Down Technique

1. Tell them "stop shouting"



2. Give warning - come down to their level, eye contact, firm voice



3. Bring to "cool down area" - 1 minute for a year of their age



4. After time's up, demand apology and then huggies
   -"Do you know why I put you in the corner?"